Underlying any request is intention. I have been remodeling my condo, for example, and there is a woman on my floor, who once in a great while I will see in passing. I have thought of asking her to see it when it is done, and here is where the “creep” factor comes in. I am attracted to her, and I assume she is probably not interested in me, so to involve her in my life in any way is selfish and insensitive. I am not looking through her eyes. I am wasting her time. The decision to intrude upon her mental space is where the fault lies. Then to also step back and consider the request — into someone’s house with the potential to close the door and never come out — is tantamount to a new horror flick more frightening than any Steven King. If I were a smart and disciplined man, I would never ask her to do anything. This is perhaps the most important point about this whole issue of #MeToo!. We are dealing with the veracity of desire as a kind of legitimizer of an intention that is lost because of emotions and sincerity, but which wholly forgets the probability of even the absence of awareness by the other party, because the other party has absolutely no romantic interest, and probably has never even considered the infatuator. But, this behavior has come from a period of male dominated culture, where men pulled hair and dragged their women into caves and made families. Even the idea of making a pass nowadays is OMG!