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Tinder’s Secret — Always Swipe Right
I have begun to swipe right for every person on Tinder. I read a piece on Medium, which said that there was an algorithm that afforded someone “active” a greater presence on the site.
As soon as I did this, there were women I thought I would never go out with, who I was swiping on, but as I was doing it, I also realized that I have never been able to find my soulmate because of a superficial tendency. Well, that’s not completely true. I did date someone, who was very good for me and I blew it when someone I was sexually attracted to came into my life and upset the apple cart. I saw this result as a manifestation of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, where if one need is not met, all the others seem to lie in wait and you remain in the same place until that need is satisfied. I had been lying in wait.
That turned out to be my loss. Once the need was satisfied, all the other needs that were being unsatisfied came to the fore and I realized pretty quickly that I had made a mistake. I have never found that perfection since and I may not, since perfection probably isn’t possible.
I have always been one to pine for women I know are probably not good for me or truly interested and I am usually correct. None of those who I have had crushes on, for example, turned out to be long-term or at least comfortable in the long-run. They all broke up…
