This is where I just left off. I have had those situations, where I had no idea what I had done. There was also a time when an ex said that she didn't "need me," I was stumped and hurt. I simply left. I said to myself, well, that was a waste of, in this case, however many months we had been dating. This parlayed with the time she told me, she needed someone to carry her suitcases as she was an NGO excecutive, who traveled a lot. I said to myself, "What am I your butler?" As women apparently do, she cried, and then forgot about me. I was written off, except that she didn't see that not needing me was hurtful and negated me as a relationship. Anyway, apologizing can go both ways. If you care about someone, you don't dismiss them.