This is profound and delicious and also sobering. We do not have the right to make demands nor intrude, nor expect anything from someone we don’t know. At best, we can signal an interest that is absolutely light and simple, and then, as you so brilliantly state, they can then grab hold. I think more and more men are learning to respect women’s judgment, because frankly it has been simply the difficulty/courage of presenting oneself to another person for judgement. But, it is inherently more than that.