The point is: "Men, and even other women, will try to shame and embarrass you. There will always be a convoluted reason why a woman owes a man or society her purity, and almost never the other way around."

That's not my point. She chose [in bold letters] the man with whom she had nothing in common.

The issue is not purity, it's that she settled for less and she left it up to Eric. The underlying point is women taking control of their lives and not giving other peoples' opinions a second thought. But, again, I say she lost the man she was willing to leave the one she was having sex with. So, he must have been important.

I learned this in elementary school. If you like someone on the playground, you don't have sex with someone else, who travels in similar circles.

I am embarrassed for her. Sex is not casual, when someone, who might want to see you hears about you having sex with someone else, that usually means they are boyfriend and girlfriend. Why would any man or woman for that matter want sloppy seconds?

And then Ivan is only worried about a double standard? Yeah, its a double standard to sleep with one guy and then say you will drop him if the other guy is interested, and then taking a stand that it was his fault for feeling uncertain about wanting to imagine a future together.

And then to present this in a public forum for some kind of support. She blew it with Eric. I assume she would feel the same way if Eric did that to her, but I guess not. But, it is not a gender thing.