The bottom line is that it depends on the woman. There was a woman I was in love with. She made contact. She was in a relationship. I told her to break up with her current boyfriend and contact me in six months if interested. I was so in love with her that I wrote back and said we could be friends. MISTAKE. We ended up cheating on her boyfriend. She didn't respect me. It was over. Women, like men, should make the first move if they like someone. It will not affect the outcome. If someone takes advantage of that power dynamic, they aren't worth it. Be with someone who loves you and they the same.