The biggest hurdle is that you are worried about it. The bottom line, is no man is worried about a vagina, but about communicable disease. He contemplates how it might smell, taste, but he never doubts its appeal, the mystery, the shyness, the intimacy. Women literally represent his reason for being. Men wonder why there is any insecurity on your part. We think if a vagina is busy it is probably a great vagina. I also want to add that I never worried about the vagina of the woman I was interested in. She defined its value. Whatever state it was in was seen through my attraction to her, my reverence, my respect, my celebration. Mileage isn’t even a thought. You are lovable, magical, mystical, and sacred.