That’s a sweet hope. Yes, people just are who they are naturally and I believe that many react to external circumstances. Take an “extremely beautiful” woman for a man, who knows nothing about her, perhaps an inclination to know her humanity provokes him to go down on her backside only to either confront the reality of her humanness and be charmed or disgusted. He wants to know she is just a person, like him. I think we assume men and women are fully exploratory, but many who infatuate are not. There is also the aspect of being controlled by the power of beauty. The butt certainly humanizes any perceived ultra feminine doll. I am of the opinion that anal sex derived from the need to dominate, what, in effect, is dominate. Beauty is dominate over ugliness. Truth and beauty lord over lies and ugliness. Or do they? In the bedroom, true intimacy comes forth out of darkness.