Sex is a need that requires permission. You sit down to a plate of onions and you eat. If you want to have sex with someone, you have to remove yourself from the equation, your hunger, your desire, your passion, your seeming veracity and remove it as a variable. Sex, too, in context with society, over-population, uncertainty in the long-term, which you cannot predict, should be placed on lay-away. Sex cannot be just a need. It has to be a door to a house we build and live in. It must be an act of deferral. Relationships are an investigation into the criterion we need to check to make sure a relationship is in order and with whom this order might be engaged. For a while, at least, it is the responsibility of the man to court her in a manner that respects her and cares for her or else a man has no right to even suggest the process. Only a man who is enlightened and capable should engage a woman. The problem is there are men, who think of themselves as justified in taking what they want because it is so profoundly affecting. Women are light. They possess what cis men want more than anything. Will these men behave?