Relationships are not something you strive for. If you are striving for one, you are missing the point, which is to become yourself and find someone who you are comfortable with. But, I am really at the position in life, where you don't need anyone, and you measure your contact in terms of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, because we fall out of "love" as soon as our associated needs are met. They cannot be held because we literally move on. Other needs come to the fore and the person rises up the hierarchy until he/she is self-actualized. Intimacy is short-lived that is based on being tied to another person. You or the other person is plotting to move on. And the person not planning to move on is stuck, co-dependent. We have to keep moving toward our needs as individuals. Healthy relationships are steeped in individual ambitions and shared beliefs, attitudes, and values.