"Probably does care for him" is such a weakness. All of this seems dependent. It is the whole reason why men and women will never be equal. Men enter relationships because of sex, and women enter for safety, for example. Men fulfill their needs and move on to other requirements; I imagine women do too. This is important. The very foundation of love is constantly moving. It is not based on anything more than a decision to commit to another person no matter what. That commitment is the purpose of life. Simply loving as a unidirectional act benefits the individual. But I don't know the answer. I am in the process of loving someone. I invest time. I believe in them. I am taking a chance. I may also be lying to myself. I know that this person is like my mother. My mother was selfless. She and people like her are the most incredible human beings. I will never forget her. I will always love her. I will love and respect people like her. My best friends are like her. You can love anyone. You have to do it.