Here is where I am going to disagree with you. My experience is with exes, who scream. A lot of them have been molested or something. One would yell at me as I drove her to school because we were late. One yelled at me and I never went back. One got mad at me because we had been sleeping together on many an occasion and I made a pass. Another screamed at me while we were in a hotel room. One screamed at me because she couldn’t sleep. I don’t yell at women that I remember. I just walk away. I think you may be missing something unrelated to chemistry, which is perceived powerlessness or deflected responsibility. We have a series of shoulds we must carry out, like getting up at a particular time, getting enough sleep, making decisions that we know we should make, like cleaning our rooms, trying for jobs we have passions for, basically avoiding regret. This should at least play in the formula for anger and outbursts.
Here is what I have been working on, and it’s been making me very satisfied:
