My mother and father were divorced for as long as I can remember, and then he died when I was 10. At. 62, I still suffer from his absence, as did my mother and sister. Think of your children, please. It would be best if you did not have children. However, growing up, I wished my mother would pick someone she loved and not men she thought were good for us because I knew I would be out of the house in no time. As soon as I could, I moved out on my own. My mother lived in poverty for the rest of her life. It broke my heart. I barely made enough to take care of myself. Please do what you want, but destroying your husband's relationship with his friend is exponentially more difficult. You can't think of his friend going for you that he is anything more than selfish and superficial?

I remember going to a restaurant with the girlfriend of someone I was going to school with. He was attending a class in another state, and she confided in me that she thought she was pregnant. I barely knew her, but I was flattered that she wanted consolation from me. I had a crush on her. I told her it would be OK and that her boyfriend would return quickly, but I allowed her to hold my hand. It was tough for me. Anyway, it turned out she wasn't pregnant, and he returned, and they later had beautiful children, and he was a great father and supporter of the family. I have been single most of my life. I tried to do the right thing, not to say I did every time. You learn. You can't walk away from something you've started because you are bound to it. And if I had made love to that woman that night, she would have never respected me, and she would have gone back to him anyway because I proved I wasn't much of a man. Whatever you decide. You will choose oppositely next time. The question always repeats. At 62, I have a girlfriend. It is so easy to love her. It will never be better. Our love grows. There are other people I like, but it is about her heart. I am shooting for that.