Kent, you say we learn not to be shy by seeing who we are and sharing that. You and I are not diverse. We are ground zero. Both of us are English in origin, I am also Italian.

Dick pics are so far out there. They don’t constitute seeing and sharing, because they are blind to affect. I think they represent insecurity actually, although I am not a psychiatrist. Self-portraits are awkward for me because, when I take a selfie, I get a strange perspective. My eyes are looking down and I seem to be under the influence. I am also so old that I don’t recognize myself. And I am not judging myself in terms of anything except myself. I guess you could say my age is arbitrary. I just got old.

Discretion implies modesty or caution as to affect. I don’t want to “show off” my body because it implies that I am proud of it. I admit that for my age, I have a nice body. I try to run about five days a week. As men, I think, we are not inclined to show our bodies. It implies aggression. We are observers. Our salable skills are tied to how much money we make, what makes us successful. “Beauty”or looks are peripheral. When I am at a hot spring, I am not concerned with competing. I just want to exist. I expect others to remain mature. But, of course, there is competition. We are trying to attract a mate. If that is what we are doing. Inadequacy comes from facing the fact of one’s perceived status relative to others and what happens. Shyness comes from reality.