If you are saying no to sex, you are not getting your needs met in other areas. The relationship is about to dissolve. It’s better not to have a relationship at all. A man, for example, takes care of his life except for sexual encounters with lovers. If he is not engaging or cannot engage or finish, the implication is that he needs nothing from her. He is turned off. He doesn’t need the relationship, vs. a relationship where a woman, for example, can survive with mere safety or financial support. This is why women and men will never be equal. The correlation is direct. If a man isn’t getting sexual satisfaction, he would be better off alone. It’s a sad loneliness and a means of survival because women need so much. If a man is creative, he needs a lot of space to produce work. If his work is hampered by chronically having to entertain her, Maslow’s Hierarchy dictates that he would instead meet his needs less expensively. If she is not wanting to sleep with him, there is certainly no point in them being together. Once you are more than friends, you must stop seeing each other to heal. After you heal, you might as well move on because the other party will still have romantic feelings, which are unrealistic, ever to be rekindled. If they are, they cannot hide the inherent problem: one not wanting sex is no longer interested, and it will only worsen. “I apologize, but I am not getting my needs met. I realize I love you. You are a great person, but I would be better off alone because too much of me has been lost in my relationship with you. I am not living my life. I am merely playing a supporting role in yours.”