I think men too have this burned-in self judgement that came from women. Women too determine how we see and value ourselves. Especially, after #MeToo!. We don't trust ourselves and we accept the judgment of women. And before that, we constantly thought of how much money we made and what we did for a living. We have our own rage and self-loathing. At this point, the consummate question of, "So how do you see yourself in five years?" or "What do you do for a living?" is like a chastity belt that we wear in our minds and on our belts.