I seem to remember reading that women, who have been abused engage men, who remind them of their abusers for the simple reason that they may then control their encounters, where initially they could not. I think this related to older men, who raped or molested them. But, I am also interested in how women love selflessly and how sex is tied to a much more eloquent and refined intentiona; it isn’t the thing that drives women, I think men are driven sexually to women. In a recent relationship I have waited three months for sex only to realize I am in love with this woman because she is obsoletely good. So now, I simply seek to please her. I look at her and I am gaga with admiration.