I read a great piece in USA Today yesterday about why some of us are drawn to emotionally-unavailable people. Our parents were abusive, departed, and even dead. That lack of availability is the thing we think we need. Our responsibility is to engage such people only if we do so, knowing that we will end up bankrupt and even dead. Psychology is a wonderfully simple thing. I am with a woman who I know loves me and is pure. I am committed to her because I would be stupid not to be. This is love. It is not to chase emptiness.