I often go to a clothing-optional hot spring and men and women are naked. Any sexual indications are forbidden. The men and women treat each other well. Sure, there are ocassional glances but it just feels like people are enjoying not having to wear clothes with other people and it is very refreshing. It really feels like everyone is clothed and going about their business. It should be like that for you, and so yes I understand that all it takes is for women to set the standard. We will get used to your toplessness. The laws can change based upon what we want them to be. Let's have this discussion and certainly if you want to be topless, then you should be. It's your life and you should feel free and safe living it.