I never get to the point of gaslighting. I am a series of questions, and the woman has to do a lot of the work in terms of making it obvious. And this is because I saw my mother's difficulty and depression in having to raise my sister and me alone. She was in a horrible way after my father died. It makes me very sensitive to women. Plus, as a child in school, I was beaten up for mentioning that I was attracted to particular girls. This happened until I got to college. Not only that because my father died when I was young, I saw that even having children was a tremendous risk to the mother. My mother died penniless and lived penniless all because she gave her life to raising us. And she wasn't ever mean.