I completely agree with this. I am already overwhelmed with emotion when I see someone I like, any sign of disinterest will be seen as disinterest. I want any excuse that I can justify so that I don't have to face someone who makes me feel this vulnerable. Absolute certainty of interest frightens me. Just the other night a woman, mind you I was working, asked me to sit down with her and her sister and share a drink. I said that I could not. She offered me the backside of her arm to interlock, and I said: "I know what you are doing." Well, of course I knew what she was doing, but I really didn't, because while she was being completely open about her feelings, I was in denial mode. I am not supposed to fraternize with the guests. But, she wanted me to be with her. At every turn, I denied her. She even got up from her chair while her sister hung on to her because she wasn't sure what my signs were indicating, but I could not allow myself to receive her attraction and yet I was totally into her, and I regret deeply not having thought of simply offering her my card so that she could contact me when I wasn't so busy. Sadly, she did get away. I bet she will never return, because her sister will tell her that I wasn't into her, but she knew I was deeply interested. Sadly, her sister will win. Frankly, I liked them both. Her sister is an elected official. I don't know what she does. But, in all seriousness, please make sure you not only make eye contact, but as a woman, you can make it happen. We men, or at least some of us, are so afraid of you because of how you make our hearts tumble, that we intellectualize love. I am afraid of what I might look like or do if I allowed myself to express my true feelings. This is mainly because everyone I have ever loved ended up hurting me. I don't trust love. If you like someone and you can manage to give them your card, then that's what you should do.