I am currently dating someone. She loves me, and I feel it strongly. My whole life, I chased women on whom I had crushes. Our relationships were one-sided and brief. I advise finding someone who loves you and you know who they are. Eric Fromm gave me the most straightforward explanation of this process: The Art of Loving. He called it an action toward. You find someone you are attracted to and start loving them. The fact that you know they love you too makes you stop when they do something you may not like because you feel guilty or you aren't paying complete attention, and you stop. Because it is you. All you can do is your best. If someone loves you too, you know their intentions are not malicious or secretly planning to leave. Find someone who loves you. Love grows, makes you happy, and blows you away. Save time chasing. It doesn't work. It is psychologically wrong.