Hello Celine, it has just been a complaint by women implying that men simply get on, off, and gone before women are satisfied. It’s not a slight of women, it’s an insult toward men. In all honesty, however, it may put pressure on men that may affect their ability to get off. I remember going through this step-by-step process with a favorite lover and while she was completely in control, it was also unsatisfying at a point, but it taught me another technique and method of assuring her satisfaction. Anyway, as a woman, you should not feel like you can’t do something. I think we men can and want to be better lovers. We want to please you. You really are all we care about.