Frank liked you and was certainly an adult inherent in the statement: “Thanks for not making this weird.” What’s weird to me is the technology and how we have lost the one-on-one that the technology makes us think we are involved in. In effect, the video was his most intimate feelings for you. It’s like a crush; it’s irrational but luckily it didn’t get out of hand, pun not intended.

One of the good or bad things of our current tech status is that the truth is presentable, and I don’t mean that in a “good” way but a Princeton study revealed that our staring alone at a screen makes us think we are alone, and when we are alone we tend to tell the truth. I call it the alone-in-an-elevator factor. You must be very attractive and bright. Frank has a crush on you. My advise notwithstanding the implications of the video’s potential to incriminate would be to have spoken to him individually. That would have saved him embarrassment. Crushes just need to be told they aren’t reciprocated. Sadly, there is this level of danger, as you mentioned, that makes growing up a bit like a Paris Hilton video that never stops circulating where intimacy was never intended to be shared.