Exactly. I am on the other side of this and I can tell you his degree of involvement is/was incompatible with yours, and not to take away from your or his actions, but as people are is the truth of the relationship. You were miserable and he would have been miserable if he became more than he felt comfortable becoming. And it had nothing to do with you, sometimes it only has to do with logistics or something that cannot be achieved, like utter passion and perfect compatibility. But, I believe that people need to both be interested in the same things and have an insatiable desire for them and them only or else it’s just friendship. Our subconscious will always tell the truth, which is why we need to take care of ourselves: We cannot lie. Our actions speak the truth and our intuitions know what’s happening. How you feel is key.